Our ideal monthly review we would review our goals, metrics, and finances and determine how we did. Of course - it doesn't quite go that way, but it's an evolving process :).
Some of the metrics we came up with (but of course forget to track) are:
- Did we meet our budget goals?
- Calculate the amount of food thrown away due to spoiling (ideally we would use all food)
- Did we have a weekend of fun - during the month?
- Did we do something outdoor adventurous?
It is much less stressful because Dan can see that I am not out on secret shopping sprees and when the credit cards are due (so he knows they are being paid on time and not getting dinged with late fees).
It's actually almost fun to review and track finances now that I have a process and a tool I enjoy using (and my husband has stopped bugging me about whether or not I've paid the credit card bills)...